Relationships What is it that keeps us looking for someone?! Someone that we even call “the one” or “the special one”, some people don’t look for a special,
they simple look for someone. Some people keep on looking and feel that they have to try everything, and do many things before finding someone to settle, some people just aspire to keep on staying single, some people just want have sex, and have as many partners as possible.
What is that we want in a relationship?! Many times we start a relationship, and after a while we think that it won’t last for long, or we need to shift that relation to a friendship, some people don’t feel comfortable to change it to a friendship a need to complete separate.
When we look for a relationship we try to look for someone who can make us happy, someone that can help us find plenitude and realization, someone to help us living. Aren’t we being selfish?! We looking to fill something that we think that we don’t have! We keep on looking in the outside what is inside of us. Even that we say that we going to share, we going to make the other happy, still aren’t we just trying to fill something that we think is empty?! Still aren’t we trying to be good enough to fill the other’s needs?! And what happens next…many of us can’t fill that emptiness! And we keep on asking why so many divorces nowadays?
Maybe we can try and shift to a new conscious…Maybe we can stop looking for someone, as many of us say when we keep on looking for something we won’t find it, even though is right in front of us, and then suddenly we stop looking, when we no longer care about it, we just find it!
We want freedom, we look for freedom! We want independency! We create dependency and restriction! Just look around you most relations are built on that…just the idea of needing someone to be happy is restrictive, doesn’t anyone the freedom to create, to be the Author of his own life! And we keep on having relationships that don’t last forever, relationships that we might feel like meaningless! Even though we know that everything has its reason to happen.
If we keep on putting the heavy responsibility on our lovers to fulfill us with freedom, and happiness, they will end up running away from us! Can you fulfill the other requests every day, at all times?!
We no longer need to look for nothing, as everything we need is inside us. What if you want to have a relationship to create something, and then you might be bringing into the relationship what you want to experience. And you will be the source for that you choose to create.
The real meaning of a relationship is to share your happiness, share plenitude! The reason for a relationship is for us to give! You don’t need to have any expectations about receiving as you know you are full of love, full of happiness! Imagine a relationship as a bowl where you can put everything in…and here is the magic…you can then “take out” and experience what you put in! If you expect by magic to find something inside the bowl without putting anything inside, maybe you will find something in…but soon it will end up!!! Imagine when u baking a cake, if you put some ingredient on your own you can have a cake…but imagine if you are baking with someone else, and you both put ingredients in… what you can have at the end?! Maybe more than when you were doing it on your own! And remember put some baking powder! When you put the cake inside the hoven, you want it to be good, but if it comes out with a less appealing shape, or not well cooked you can still be happy and eat it! So you don’t really need to have expectations, just be sure that whatever comes out it will be good! And just enjoy it! And just had something else if you want to!
I discussed about freedom in a relationship with many people, and I always believe that to love someone we just need to be free…to live independently! Living in communion with the loved one! No needs for “big brothers”! No needs to be constant vigilantly. No need for restrictions.
I believe that relationships should be based on total freedom. Our love doesn’t need to agree with who we are, just needs to understand.
And as Neale says all relationships should be experienced as a flow and constant reflow, a continuous process in constant change, where there are no rules or restrictions, and the only agreement is to say the truth, and all the preferences can be announced openly, the decisions and choices are made responsively and the outcomes accepted as a natural result of the flow and reflow.
The main aim of a relationship is the shift, and a relationship will work and last for the necessary time to it to happen.
“The holy relationship is where your inside finds the other exterior, and the other's inside finds your exterior, and in the best moments, both exteriors merge with the warmth of both interiors, allowing both interiors to find each other and awake to the consciousness that they are identical and One, and experience it.” I just love this definition of Love of Neale!
With Love
Start waking up today!
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